In considering 2018, choose your language carefully. Rather than "I hated" or "I loved" 2018, what actually happened? Articulating your challenges or successes, likes or dislikes, in your own voice is impactful and therapeutic.
If you are prone to being led by obligation over the holidays, you may wish to experiment with a little less of that this year. Try following your inner voice's wishes and requests. It is possible to do this and be respectful.
Not every person is going to like you and/or the things you choose to do. That does not mean there is anything wrong with you nor does it mean there is anything wrong with the other person. Be the self that you are happy being.
If you want a greater sense of emotional control, one thing that can help is to think of your reactions in terms of "I like" or "don't like". This can help you focus on what you need rather than express emotions without care.
You know that time when you were upset and someone ignored you or told you to get it together?-and how wrong and awful that felt? We can remember that experience next time we come across another who is upset and perhaps listen.
Healthy resilience is not about getting over upsetting misfortunes quickly. It involves staying in contact with something that is difficult and working through issues until they naturally resolve and fade into the background.
Talking openly about the sexual trauma you have experienced is extremely therapeutic. It can feel like the hardest thing to do and it can be tricky to find the right audience, but try to not to keep the horrible violation within yourself. It's not your fault.
If you ask "What's the point?" in life or if you frequently feel sad, dissatisfied and exhausted, you may want to shake things up. Trying something new, making a new connection or modifying a routine can help provide a satisfying answer.
We may feel some deep sadness, disappointment and pain when we try to accept ourselves for who we are right now, flaws-and-all. However, if we don't have self-appreciation in any given moment, then it's hard for us to have that in the future.
Most of us accept that our personal "inbox" will never be empty. We will always have more things to do than we have time. We can, however, try to organise our inbox so it is a healthy mix of things we have to do and those we love to do.
The All Things Emotional Series is focused on emotional considerations and language development. All material is authored by Cori Lambert unless explicitly stated otherwise. Authentic Consulting and Counselling is located in West Perth, Greater Perth Area.